5 Common Mistakes Men Make That Turn Women Off
Posted: Friday, January 08, 2010
by Tiff Taylor
GuyGetsGirl.com
In the universe of dating, every little thing you do will be analyzed and judged. Often this analysis is done on a subconscious level. This means you are being judged by women based on things that women have judged men since the dawn of time.
In this article, I'll share with you 5 common mistakes men make that turn women off. Let's see how many of these you are guilty of.
Women want confident men. And when we say confident, we mean someone who has an opinion and who stands for something. It doesn't matter what other people's opinions are of him because deep down, he knows what he's about. He is certain of his values.
Now, if in the hope of gaining a woman's affection you hang on her every word and agrees with her on every little thing, then you will be perceived as a spineless coward who will say anything just to get what he wants. In a woman's mind, this shows her that you are not someone she can count on. You can see how this can be a major turn off, right? Women want men who are strong and confident and who is honest and reliable.
So when you're out with a girl, be yourself. Voice your own opinion. Don't be afraid to disagree with her, but do this politely. If you do this, you will assert your social value and make yourself more desirable in her eyes.
2. Pretends to be someone you're not.
Women know when you pretend to be someone that you are not. We simply have that instinct, that gut feel that tells us when they guy is only after one thing and is trying desperately to get it. It doesn't work, so don't even try to pretend to be someone you are not.
Be yourself. Showcase your best self! Approach women and genuinely be interested in getting to know them. Have fun while doing so. If you do all these, women will be drawn to you naturally.
3. Acts shy
When men are a little shy, it can be flattering and endearing. But if your shyness is extreme to the point of crippling you from doing anything or keeping a conversation going, then it's definitely something you need to get over.
There's only one prescription for shyness and that is to keep at it until you truly overcome it. In the beginning, you need to learn to hide it and mask it.
You might wonder though, isn't that actually pretending to be someone you're not, which is our no-no #2. So let me clarify this point. It's not the same as pretending to be someone you're not. You are simply choosing the best qualities of the real you to show the public. Shyness is a small part of who you are. You may also be funny, witty, charming, driven and passionate. But if you let shyness take over, then women won't be able to appreciate who you really are and judge you base on your better qualities. And so, when it comes to shyness, you need to fake it till you make it.
4. Acts cocky
Women like confident men. But some men, in the attempt to look confident, overcompensate and turn out cocky. Cockiness, in the eyes of women, is a sign of insecurity in men. What is tells us is that you are afraid that your lack of confidence will become obvious and so you feel the need to assert yourself all the time, even on things that are not significant, and even to the point of being rude.
Truly confident men don't need to respond to each and every challenge thrown his way because he is sure of his value. So be sure your behavior mirrors confidence and not cockiness.
5. Ignores her friends
When you trying to make a girl like you and she's with a group of friends, ignoring her friends is a mistake you shouldn't make. You want to make her friends your ally. If you ignore them, you miss the chance to make a good impression on them and you also miss out on the opportunity of using the group dynamic to make yourself more desirable.
When you leave, you can be sure that the girl will ask her friends their opinion of you. And if you've successfully ignored them all throughout your entire foray into their group, you can be certain a couple of them would have observed something negative about you. After all some of them could be resentful you took their friend away. So the best thing to do is to invest a little time and a little charm on her friends.
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